I know exactly what you are going through! I have been there. Growing up, I was constantly criticized for the way I looked, dressed, the things I said, and I felt like I could never get anything right.

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My parents, being immigrants who had experienced their own traumas, meant well but often times did the exact opposite of what I hoped for as a child. I was emotionally and physically abused as a child and was exposed to alcohol addiction and domestic violence. I rarely felt seen, heard and felt misunderstood all the time. I was super sensitive to my environment and felt easily overwhelmed in crowds. I wasn't allowed to hang out with friends outside of school and never felt like I fit in.

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Because of the all that I was experiencing, I ultimately stopped trying. I stopped using my voice. I stopped trying to make friends. I stopped sharing how I felt. I punished myself with hurtful words. I felt worthless, ashamed and like a waste of space. I never made eye contact. I starved myself instead of ordering food, because I was painfully shy to speak even to a cashier. I failed classes because I refused to speak in front of other students. I wished to be a robot so I didn't have to experience all that I felt and couldn't express. What got me through that time was the small amount of space I allowed for self-expression which was through my art, my poetry writing, journaling, chatting with strangers online, and the few teachers who saw me for who I was.

 

As an adult, when I asked my parents why they treated me the way they did, they said it was because I was too sensitive and cried too much. All of my problems didn't go away when I got older. I experienced debilitating anxiety and I felt completely ALONE in the world. I yearned for love, connection and friendship, but rarely allowed my true self to be seen because of what I experienced as a child.

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Nothing in my life changed until I hit ROCK BOTTOM. I was in debt, in a relationship with an abusive boyfriend who I found out was cheating on me for 6 years, working jobs I hated, surrounded by "friends" who criticized me and treated me poorly, and I blamed my parents for everything that I was experiencing.

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I finally made the decision to TAKE BACK MY POWER. I stopped blaming my parents for everything. I slowly learned how to reprogram my subconscious beliefs and negative self-talk I was telling myself everyday. I wrote post-its to myself to remind myself of positive things I could say. These were the first few but HUGE steps in reclaiming my voice and positioning myself in a place of power to be whatever I chose. I became a voracious learner and devoured anything that would help me change the outcome of my story.

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Today, I am a teacher and a leader in my field. I have worked in education for 14 years and have taught students of all ages for nearly a decade. I speak confidently with students, parents, fellow teachers, administrators, and paraprofessionals. I freely share my ideas in rooms full of people of all ages and backgrounds. Reclaiming my voice and self-expression has made me confident in ways I could have never imagined.

 

My best friend and now husband was just a friend during this time of learning who I truly was. I knew we had a connection but it never turned into anything more than a friendship because I was always scared of being my true self - I was people pleasing ALL the time. As soon as I let go of trying to control every aspect of my being, and just showed up as my real authentic self, my husband confessed his love, asked me to be his girlfriend and told me he wanted to marry me all within months!

 

Now, in addition to being a teacher, I am a reiki master, spiritual guide, and life coach. I show up in this work as my true authentic self for everyone to see. Pursuing this work, I have had to share my own vulnerabilities, insecurities and fears with others. I realize now my sensitivity and empathy are my super powers. I got over the fear of being seen and now share my voice authentically online for the ENTIRE WORLD to see! I have witnessed miracles and manifested my dream life. I am surrounded by so much love and spend time with people who love me for who I am at my core. I now TRULY connect with people and get to help others feel and experience the same transformative process that I went through myself.

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I created The Purifying Place as a safe, compassionate and loving space to share my experiences and gifts with those who are ready to make a change in their lives! My coaching packages listed below will help you reclaim your own authentic voice and innate power to create the life changing transformation you have been searching for...

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